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Post by Beth on May 20, 2012 18:00:49 GMT 1
Isn't it just?. Whether we are far away from home in distance or far away cos we have had a big fall out. Yes i am feeling mellow tonight and not cos of the red red wine.(too early for that) My wee auntie is the last contact I have with loads of my family and she will be 86 in July. it is sad. A decision my mum made many years ago to cut us off from all family. Thanks to a very special person, I am now trying to decide, do I come home to Scotland, the land of my heart and try and meet up with family, or go over the water to Aus to see my precious daughter, next year. I am in an terrible situation. So all of you who have had wee tiffs wi the family. KISS AND MAKE UP. Don't live with regrets
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Post by bettyb on May 20, 2012 22:57:56 GMT 1
What a shame Beth but i'm sure you will make the right decision.
Big Hug.
bettyb
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Post by patrick on May 22, 2012 16:05:53 GMT 1
Hi Beth, when was the last time you saw your daughter? and is she your only daughter? I hope you don't think I am prying.x
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Post by Sandy Hills on May 22, 2012 16:53:55 GMT 1
Only you can make that call Beth,it might help to sound out the family members in Scotland beforehand to ensure that whatever old wounds of the past have been healed,I'm sure your own daughter would love to see you again if it's been a few years,your heart will help you to make the right choice.
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Post by Beth on May 22, 2012 19:32:28 GMT 1
Thanks Keelies for your concern, most of you know me enough to know I go through these spells, especially as AH WANT A HOALIDAY HAME. Sandy hills, I have no old wouldns at home, I just hear of so many folk who do have them and as I work with old folk, I KNOW that many folk have issues that should be dealt with but are often not and then suddenly it is too late and often all because of pride. I was talking about my Mum's cousin I found by accident and who has re-kindled my mum's family and put me in touch with a very special old lady. I was very young when my mum cut us off We last saw our very precious daughter and son in December 2010 and have been fortunate enough to be able to afford to see them every three years. they are both in Aus, opposite sides, and us in Africa. The thing, as most of you know, is, I LOVE SCOTLAND, and my heart longs for it, but I am a mummy and I also love my children. Oh well, we have to wait for the dugs tae die to make a final decision, but I really need to see the green green grass of home together with the bluebells (Just in case anyone things I have certain leanings ;d)
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Post by bettycolter on May 22, 2012 21:18:09 GMT 1
aw beth , i so feel it for you , but as us scots say hame is where the heart is hen and only you can make that decision . ( heartstring pulling as it may be ) i'm feeling it for you.
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Post by Waverley on May 22, 2012 21:22:39 GMT 1
Go West young woman...Australia beckons you.
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Post by Beth on May 22, 2012 21:50:27 GMT 1
Aye, Charlie ye know ma heart!! Bit Scotland is callin. Posted a whole lot of stuff and wiped it out. We all have to make decisions for the right thing at our right time. and things were so different 40 tears ago! But thank you, and our children are so very precious
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Post by amethyst on May 23, 2012 14:47:43 GMT 1
Hi Beth, Was thinking ,if it could be made possible that your children came and visited you and Allen and then you could do your visit to Scotland later after they went back home. Could be a solution darling Beth; That way everyone would be happy. XXX
Pat
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Post by adaline on May 23, 2012 17:04:50 GMT 1
Beth I know what I would do as my family comes first no matter what...only you and Allan can make that decision though.
In saying that it would be lovely to see you both again if you decide to come home for a holiday.
Adaline
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Post by palaisgirl on May 23, 2012 20:06:13 GMT 1
Having known Beth a few years now, I recognize her post, as every now and then she gets these bursts of homesickness and it is understandable. I think being home a couple of years ago has made it worse for her. It is a big decision whether to come home or see your children/grandchildren, I personally know which one I would choose, as adaline says family always comes first.
Neil and I were only married 2 years, when we decided we would emigrate to Canada, as we had been there a couple of times visiting my sister, so we sold our flat in Alexander Parade and then started the ball rolling, but unexpectingly I discovered I was pregnant and that put emigrating oot the window. The way it turned out I am just as glad, as my mother didnt have good health and as I was the only child here I had to look after her, then in future years when my mother died I had to look after my Dad. So Beth has a heartrending decision to make in a few years, I am sure she will choose the right one.
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Post by Beth on May 23, 2012 21:00:31 GMT 1
Charlie, I love you, and I am sober
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Post by Beth on May 23, 2012 21:21:36 GMT 1
Children always come first, but when you are talking about a new country at our ages and pensions and exchange rates and the affordability of buying a home. All these things come into play and as much as the heart rules the brain has to work also, unless you have loads of money of course!
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Post by adaline on May 23, 2012 21:55:58 GMT 1
Beth I know your decision is difficult but I'm sure you both will make the right one for you.
Carol I have posted on The patriot game thread a similar post to you there was no way I was going to emigrate after my daddy took ill.
Adaline
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Post by Gibbsy on May 24, 2012 9:40:58 GMT 1
Children always come first, but when you are talking about a new country at our ages and pensions and exchange rates and the affordability of buying a home. All these things come into play and as much as the heart rules the brain has to work also, unless you have loads of money of course! Very wise and true Beth - I am sure you and Allan will come to a decision that suits you both
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Post by Waverley on Jun 10, 2012 8:58:53 GMT 1
Heard this on a First World War CD and I immediately thought of you Beth.
There's a long, long trail a-winding Into the land of my dreams, Where the nightingales are singing And a white moon beams: There's a long, long night of waiting Until my dreams all come true; Till the day when I'll be going down That long, long trail with you.
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Post by palaisgirl on Jun 10, 2012 9:17:37 GMT 1
Lovely words Charlie, I am sure Beth will appreciate them.
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